I am an OPTIMIST

I remember when I decided to join the Optimist Club, as a way of getting involved in my community. Little did I now the impact it would have on me. Many times, we go through our days planning what we want for our lives and how it will be done. However, most times we forget that while working towards our goals, there will be setbacks. There will be the pessimism of others- even those who are close to you and this leads to a different outlook on life as we are deterred from the dreams we have.

It is always good to have reminders of optimisim and the impact it has as it allows for us to see the sunny side of things .

Promise Yourself…

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

Being an optimist doesn’t mean that you are a happy go lucky person; it means that you are able to look at the better side of whatever instance that you find yourself in and accept what the circumstances are. If it is something that can be fixed, you do it. If not, you learn as well that there are some things that you leave alone. 

Optimist Candice Stewart said recently:

“I came to the realization today that optimism is not necessarily about being happy and chirpy and going with the flow against all odds.
Optimism is also about standing up for what you believe to be right and moral and true.
 Point is… don’t think that being an optimist also includes smiling through crap that people throw at you or try to do to you. If you are able to stand up for what you believe in, then do so.”

Optimist Ellis Laing agreed and shared : 

“Optimism is about being true, it is about being bold, about placing value on people n principles rather than expediency n profits”.

I agree with them both because at the end of the day life has its challenges. It can get really confusing at times and you wonder what is happening and even go as far as questioning your own existence. However, there is always that AHA! moment in which you have a breakthrough and things start to make sense again.

 

KEEP IT GOING

Believe me when I say I have had and still have those moments when I can’t be bothered with the world, the new day or even getting out of bed. Yet everyday I try, if I don’t I’ll be stuck dreaming and contemplating my next move.This is why every Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday I send a morning greeting to those persons in my Whatsapp contact. Why? Because we all need to have that one person who reminds us that we all have our problems, but life’s still worth living- you can still press on.

DON’T give up. 

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Jermaine Peart (Ms.)

Last month, I called my father asking him why he named me Jermaine after hearing people come up with plausible explanations as to why I got my name.

He said to me that he wanted all his children to have their name start with Jer, that it’s something simple so I shouldn’t overthink it. I’m the first for my parents and the only girl. Yes, he knew that he was getting a girl and he decided to merge Jer from Jeremy and maine from Charmaine which is my mother’s name to get Jermaine.

Now I’m 23 and I have met a girl called Jherane (exceptional in her own right) and I’m saying to myself why him neva do that? stick with the Jer but change it and make it more feminine. Come to think of it, I believe he was just focusing on the simplicity, that his daughter will be named after him, through his own invention.

My two middle names are Roberta and Hope; yes there is a story behind these as well. Robert was from my late grandfather Fletcher’s middle name and because he died before I was born, my mother thought that it would be nice to have a part of him with me. Hope is my Grandma Peart’s middle name. I’m the first grandchild for his parents. So my parents were setting me up for uniqueness from an early stage (This where I smile).

Jermaine (/ərˈmn/ jər-mayn) is a masculine given name of French origin, derived from the French given name Germaine, meaning; “Courageous”, “Honest”, “Determined”, “Original”, and “Creative”. Looking back at my life, I’m happy that my parents decided to name me Jermaine, because this is me!!! Many persons would think that I had a rough time growing up because of it, but from what I can remember, it wasn’t that bad. I had a few persons who went overboard with it and I was affected by it. Though I can laugh about it now, I still get annoyed when people prolong the conversation about the name in a negative way:

Why you no change you name?         You actually like your name?

Seriously????  HELL YES!!!!

 I think the high point in this life is going to an all girls school and having the name Jermaine. It was at Mt. Alvernia High School that one day after telling some girls my name, they responded by saying, it’s cute, it’s unique and they like it. What an esteem boost, yes, an esteem boost as I battled with self esteem issues- work in progress. 

Can you imagine the look on everyone’s face the day of my graduation when they heard Jermaine Peart – in an all girls school….. heehee 😀

I’m at a stage now where it is added humour in my life, I pause for effect when I say  my name and watch the look on people’s faces when they see a girl and I say a boy’s name. Once I remembered saying it and someone said, “no what’s YOUR name”. I have to be careful when I write letters and emails as people will think that they’re dealing with a man and not a woman. Then there are persons who feel embarrassed  because they  assumed that I’m a boy when I’m ACTUALLY a girl. I actually feel sorry for them because they’re getting flustered over nuttn. You just neva know.

The million dollar question on everybody’s mind is as it relates to relationships:

What does your boyfriend call you?????

Persons asking usually go off on a tandem on how his friends would jeer him, even though they know that he’s talking to a girl that has  a boy’s name. I remember being at the salon and some girls were saying that if I should leave my boyfriend; to get back at him I can say something in public using my name that would make people think that he’s gay- I’m not too open to that idea though.

In my experience, I don’t hear Jermaine unless it’s something serious; whatever pet name he has for me that is was I hear. If he’s embarrassed to be with a girl named Jermaine, why is he wasting our time?

I love my name, and changing it is disregarding a part of my identity. Why should I conform to society’s view of what a true representation of a name should be?

My name is Jermaine and yes I know it’s a boys name.